Hmm
I’m on the verge of getting addicted to tumblr now and I like reading the love quotes (Yah I know I’m not a particularly mushy person but I’m still a girl!) which are quite insightful (oh no I’m starting to sound like someone) but I’m slowly realizing that most of them are either quite ego-boosting or a bit too idealistic. Most of the quotes boil down to the gist of he’s not good enough for you (if you get dumped) or like “I want a guy who will put up with me no matter what, who tells me that he needs me, who will make me shiver with excitement etc etc”
But the former really depends on the situation right? I mean, if you’re a crazy girlfriend who’s overly possessive, bossy, whiny, can you really blame the guy for leaving you eventually? In that case, quotes like “If he doesn’t love you, you deserve better” are kind of bullshit isn’t it. How will you ever learn your flaws if you keep believing in phrases like those? (Again, it depends on the context)
As for the latter, I know it’s romantic to fantasize that you’re one guy’s everything, but it’s on the verge of getting egoistic and discriminatory. You want to be one guy’s whole life, the reason why he breathes, the reason why he wakes up in the morning, to not have a life besides you? To an extent, fine, that’s what love’s about, but I think such a mindset is proliferating a little too much. I think what most of them are forgetting is that they can’t possibly find a person who would do such a thing for them if they don’t give all of themselves to them in the first place, which is impossible due to the egoistical build-up b the notion of the-guy-must-live-and-breathe-you-24/7. Plus, a particular girl I know seems to devote her entire life to finding that one dude who would die for her (that’s her version of a happily-ever-after). Her search has come to the point where she’s practically dissing the entire male sex, implying that practically none are good enough to be loved by her. Ridiculous! Women complain about being discriminated all the time, true, such discrimination still exists, but I highly doubt that generalizing men as mere porn-watching, beer-chugging morons is accurate too. It’s like a new social phenomenon in the 21st century, men being discriminated.
It’s these very expectations that just set them up for big disappointments and delusions. Sometimes I don’t really believe in all that advice about how to deal with / get the girl/guy you want based on their sex alone, because it totally defies the entire notion of “true love” that everyone is looking for in the first place. I really think if you love someone, you wouldn’t give a shit about all the “what do you look for in a man/woman” blah, because you’d love the person’s flaws too. It would just be two people in love with one another, and not a man and woman (Oo sounds Herland-ish)
But then again, I’m only 18, I don’t have a lot of knowledge about what love is. At this point in time though, that’s what I think.
Anyway I know certain readers will conclude that on top of being cynical about everything else, I’m even cynical about love too! Well I’m really not at all, I just think that sometimes some girls can get a little too caught up with their delusions to realize what they have in front of them. I myself recently just snapped out of that funk too. Maybe reading all the love quotes in one shot made me feel this way, maybe small doses is the way to go.
2 Responses to “Hmm”
Lol I like yours! Very nice photos 
Hello, Tumblr is super addictive! Just ask Sam, she’s on it too haha!